Saturday, December 12, 2009

Exploring Panama

Panama.
A country I admittedly have had no desire to visit other than to have my feet in every country on the planet before I pass. The canal has never been a draw for me even when others have used it as a ploy to lure me into saying how much I wanted to explore Panama.

So, needless to say, when dear friends broke our rule that whenever we move it must be to a great place for others to visit, I was not enticed to quickly hop on a plane and get down there. And then, I received a message from Beckie inviting me to Nelson’s surprise 40th birthday party. A celebration of any kind with Nelson & Beckie will always have me booking flights immediately. But, Nelson’s 40th? Nothing could keep me away from celebrating the life of my dear friend. And thus, I began to get excited about visiting Panama.

Exploring cities has also never been a big draw for me unless I have a chance to venture out and explore the rest of the country, its people, its culture. I immediately began to see what I should explore, beyond Panama City, knowing Nelson & Beckie would most likely join me as they’re adventurers as well. A friend of mine has an island and an eco-B&B in the Bocas del Toro province of the Panama Caribbean region. But due to the fact Nelson & Beckie had already booked a weekend away from the baby, and my trip was a short 5-days, I opted to join them at the nearby resort. I could use a relaxed few days at a beach ~ I’d been too stressed of late. And, this would give me more time with little Diego and Nelson’s parents, Sarita and Nelson.

The party was a complete success! Beckie did an amazing job surprising Nelson. It was a lovely evening on the poolside terrace, overlooking the water, half-moon in the night sky, white candles outlined the edge of the pool, and latin music playing in the background. Friends, family, and colleagues gathered in cocktail dresses and stylish suits. Out on the water, not too far away, a line of lights was forming as ships queued to pass through the canal the next morning.

As Nelson worked the next few days, I spent time with Beckie, little Diego, Nelson Sr. & Sarita. We had a lovely lunch on the water and watched the ships as they moved closer to the canal.

Driving around Panama City, I was surprised by how under-developed the city actually is ~ although, there is construction everywhere. And I do mean everywhere. The majority of the city’s skyline is under construction. Luxury highrise apartments are going up in areas where the expats reside. And nearby is the old area of the city where the buildings are occupied by squatters. A rough-looking area, but one that I would be comfortable strolling the main streets during the day. The streets were lined with shop owners peddling their wares from tables on the sidewalks to tourists sporting Panama hats and flip flops. Very picturesque from my point of view. Very difficult, and what appeared to be hopeless, from the other. My heart breaks when I think how it would be to live there.

Beckie and I headed to the canal. It was mesmerizing! I must admit, I did get a little carried away with my blackberry video, and even began giving commentary to the tune of Rick Steves. I get it now. Truly, the canal is something everyone should see…or cruise through. Words cannot fully explain it, so check it out for yourself.

Early the next morning, I check into the Intercontinental Playa Bonita Resort & Spa and head to the spa for a wonderful coconut-almond massage, exfoliation, and moisturizing bubble bath. It was heaven. The services at The Bonita del Mar Spa are superb, and the spa itself is very zen. Their broad services range from saunas, Turkish baths, meditation rooms, to many types of massages and skin/body treatments. For some reason, I seemed to walk ever so lightly when walking through the halls.

I spent the rest of the day at the eternity pool, either poolside or at what became my favorite thinking place…the spot where the water from the pool spilled over and sea took over. Looking out across the water, memories of Venezuela came flooding back as the islands off in the distance reminded me of where I completed my open water scuba dive. I must scuba again soon.

That evening, I was to meet Nelson and his family, along with our friend Ivania, at a restaurant in Casco Antiguo (also known as Casco Viejo), Panama City’s old quarter. Over the next few years, Casco Antiguo will resemble Old San Juan in Puerto Rico. It has almost a thousand historic buildings spanning Spanish colonial dungeons and churches to century-old French and American townhomes featuring wrought-iron around their balconies. The streets are narrow and the plazas cobbled. You can almost see the conquistadors, missionaries, engineers, money-launderers and spies who have all participated in the history here. But for now, many of the buildings are old and dilapidated, many in need of paint, and a few still display their scars from the US invasion of Panama when Noriega was seized.

The hotel provided their driver to take me to where I would meet my friends. The gentleman asked which way I preferred, the long way which takes me back into Panama City then double back into Casco Antiguo, or the short way which goes through a very bad neighborhood? Of course we took the way through the very bad neighborhood! Not because it was the shorter path, but because I want to experience all aspects of the countries I visit. Indeed the area was very poor. Driving through narrow streets in our black SUV with black windows, I felt a bit like Harrison Ford in Clear & Present Danger, only with the added eeriness from the pitch black night. We were stopped at several intersections by military police who checked the driver’s papers, shined their light at me in the back seat, walked around to my window to check my passport. “Americana, si?” “Si, Americana. Muchas Gracias.”

Ego y Narisco is a highly impressive restaurant on Plaza Bolivar. Upon stepping inside the restaurant there is a moment of surprise as you realize this is quite a sophisticated, and hip, establishment. The décor is lovely, and the staff of very attractive Panamanian men and women are very friendly. We sat outside on the plaza under an umbrella and had delicious martinis, and scrumptious tapas.

Around the corner is Bar Platea, located on the ground floor of a colonial town house. This bar/club is cozy, dark, and is reminiscent of a speakeasy. The waiters are large, handsome, Panamanian men who all sport the traditional Panamanian hat. Promptly at 10pm, what I had been told was the best salsa band in all of Panama began to play. They were fantastic! I just wish I could remember their name.

The next few days were spent at the resort with Nelson & Beckie. Morning yoga on the beach. Reading poolside. Catching up with my friends. I have never relaxed so much, so quickly.

And I cannot wait to go back,

to Panama.

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

coming soon ...

Watch for future entries sharing some recent explorations ...
  1. (more) Jazz in NYC
  2. The Breslin Bar & Dining Room
  3. Felidia Italian restaurant

Sunday, November 8, 2009

Cafe Carlyle: Pizzarelli & Molaskey

John Pizzarelli.

Say his name and I'm immediately smiling.

I was introduced to John's music about five years ago and fell in love with it immediately. Son of 'Bucky' Pizzarelli, American jazz guitarist and banjoist, he is himself an amazing jazz guitarist.

When I moved to New York City almost four years ago, I passed on the opportunity to hear John play at Lincoln Center. In the summer of the same year, I skipped out of the office early to ensure I was able to get good seats to hear John play at the River-to-River festival. His performance was fantastic.

Opening for John at that River-to-River festival was a woman I had never heard of, but of whom I'm now a fan. Paula West. Paula's voice is powerful, rhythmic, and captivating. Several times since that concert, I have sought out the opportunity to hear Paula perform again. Evidently, she plays The Oak Room, here in NYC, two weeks every fall. And every year I remember a week after the show closed. Paula is now performing at The Oak Room until Saturday, November 14. And yes, I will juggle my schedule so that I can get to her performance.

Two nights ago, I was catching up with an old friend who loves jazz. I mentioned Paula's current appearance in the city. Of course, in mentioning Paul, John Pizzarelli's name came up and I was surprised to learn my friend had not heard of John P. Calling it a night, we strolled past The Carlyle and decided to go in for a nightcap. As soon as we stepped into the lobby, I was bouncing! There on the board was "John Pizzarelli & Jessica Molaskey" performing October 13 to November 7.

I was so excited and overjoyed. We waited fourty-five minutes for the beginning of the next show and ... it was fabulous!! I had never heard John's wife, Jessica Molaskey, perform. She has a very smooth, lovely voice. Together, they are a delight.

If you ever get the chance, it's a fun evening with friends ... or it can be a very romantic evening. You choose. But whatever you do, you must hear John Pizzarelli perform!
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(my apologies for the quick posts of late. life has been busy. look for my upcoming post about my recent wanderings...and findings...in Panama.)

Sunday, October 25, 2009

Strong, Beautiful, Sensual, Delight: 4x4 Deborah Colker's Companhia de Danca

The most amazing dance performance. Since ten minutes into last night's performance at NY City Center, I have been ... speechless ...

And as everyone who knows me knows, rarely am I rendered speechless.

Performances here in NYC have finished, but this is definitely worth traveling for because ...

still speechless ... http://tinyurl.com/y9dne7h

Monday, October 19, 2009

A View From Above: Understanding 'Cultural Relevance' Shapes Package Design for Global Brands

by David Ceradini and Karen Burke


For now, here's a link to our article: http://tinyurl.com/yzlmtlo

Sunday, August 30, 2009

Should Love Have an Age?

This has been a topic much discussed of late, at least in my various circles, and I find it quite interesting. I'll admit part of my interest comes from the fact that I'll be leading a small group for my church next month on the topic of relationships. And yes, there is an age range for the group, 26-99.

Society has always supported the notion that a man is supposed to be older than the woman in a relationship. And, has accepted, although with whispers, when a man dates a much younger woman. Neither of these are new to us.

In more conservative areas of the world, and of the US, this remains the typical viewpoint. I'm surprised to find so many here in New York City, New...York...City, still hold to that traditional view. Looking across cultures, here's what I've found, to-date: the British tend to hold to having the man be older (although most Brits I've seen tend to stick very close to their own age); Western Europeans are more concerned with who you are and whether there's chemistry (age and profession may never arise in conversation); and, in South America age doesn't seem to be as relevant (although my exposure across those countries is limited).

Personally, I applaud the Europeans. I admit that I'm guilty of it myself, but I think the notion of our profession and our age defining us is ludicrous. Think about it, here in the US the first question asked whenever you meet someone new is "What do you do?" Seriously? Truly? Is this how we want to be defined? Is this how we want to see others? I would much rather learn what someone is passionate about and their views on life.

Back to love and age ...
The other night, I was chatting with a woman who is 29 and was on a date with someone when she learned of his age, 23. Immediately she put him in the 'no' category. I believe her age range is 27-40. Another woman with us that same evening is 23 and saw no issue with the former woman dating the 23 year old.

Back home, in Cincinnati, I have a very intelligent and politically-savvy friend who refused to even consider accepting a date with a man who was younger, even by only 2 years. We all thought she was crazy because, as (almost) everyone knows, 2 years falls into the 'same age' category. She's now happily married to a man 10 years her junior. She was 40 when she married.

Another friend of mine is 66 and he has been married for 15 years to someone 20 years younger. They love each other very much and have a great life together.

And, an acquaintance of mine is a lovely 37 year old woman who is smart, successful, full of life, and about to marry a man who is 27 years old and without a job. Could you do this? Could I?

Cougars and what used to be referred to as 'Dirty Old Men'...
I hate this new term, Cougar. We don't have a cultural term for older men who date much younger women. Why is it any different for an older woman to date a younger man?

My despise of the term has nothing to do with my gender nor my age. Rather, it has everything to do with putting a negative label on something that should not even be a topic of discussion for acceptance or unacceptance. I despise the term because it perpetuates an unhealthy stereotype.

We each decide what is best for us and with what we are the most comfortable. We are all formed by our familial environment, life experiences, and greatly by our cultural environment. But why are we still judgmental and unaccepting of something different from society's norm?

Keeping it real by getting personal ...
I have always been attracted to older men...even as a young girl. In fact, I'm probably the one woman who never thought George Clooney was attractive in the slightest. He was too cutsey. But now that he has begun to age, omg, he is very handsome! (And yes, Jerry, the man I was married to, is an older man.)

All of that said, I don't believe age matters. I'm a firm believer that life-stage is what's important.

I've dated men as much as 16 years older than me. And I've dated men as young as 13 years younger. If you want to look at age, that range is rather large. Jim, who is 16 years older, is very young-at-heart without sacrificing emotional maturity. Cesar, who is 13 years younger, is very mature. In fact, initially I thought he was only 7 years younger. And yes, I did fall in love with Cesar. Surprisingly, my Midwestern, conversative parents liked him and told me they were supportive if I decided to marry him. What I decided was that I didn't want to hold him back from having the 'normal' life experiences of his age group, so I walked away. Friends accused me of making his decision for him. I didn't see it that way...then. A year later, he invited me to his wedding. He married an older woman.

Changing the conversation...
In order to initiate and cause change, we must first change the conversation. Peter Block has an excellent book about change: The Answer to How Is Yes: Acting on What Matters. Granted, it is directed at changing corporate and cultural landscapes, but his principles apply here. After all, love and age are part of our cultural landscape.

Here are a few questions we may want to ask ourselves, and each other, to start changing the conversation:
  • Is there a 'right and wrong' when it comes to love and age?
  • Should I assign or use terms, and do they perpetuate stereotypes?
  • If I wanted to, could I actually go against our societal norms?

Saturday, August 8, 2009

Wandering Stone Street ...

Stone Street, in the Financial District of Manhattan. I have always wanted to go and get lost in the ambiance that so many photos have captured. But, in my living of the every day, it somehow always seemed to be forgotten.

My friend Typhani recently began tending bar at the Stone Street Tavern. Tanvir, Amanda, and I decided to head down there last night to support her. Having been a while since I last heard about that area of the city, I didn't make the connection until I googled the tavern for its address. Stone Street!!

As I had a massage earlier, it took a while for me to convince myself to get in the shower and wash off the relaxing scent of bergamot. Which is my justification for why I ended up taking a cab downtown. And like all good NYC cabbies, mine couldn't figure out where to go once in the Financial District. I shared that it's the street that is full of tables with umbrellas, I was climbing out of the cab in minutes.

As I rounded the corner, I was immediately transported back to Italy. Ah, my Italia!On this short block of narrow street, each doorway led to a new pub. Take your pick. They are lined up one after the other. The tables filling the streetway are packed with Wall Streeters, young girls admiringly chatting with male financiers, and friends meeting up. Everyone appears to have let go of the business day and are fully in the moment, enjoying life. Looking at their faces you can see sincere smiles and intense listening. Everyone has a brew in hand. Burgers and pasta and salads are the waiters' trays. Despite what might be happening in their daily lives, right now, life is good.

Isn't it amazing? A memory can be triggered so quickly and instantaneously you
are where the memory was born. Movements slowed. Every one of my senses came to full bloom. I could hear only the accents of the Italians sitting at random tables along Stone Street. I could smell
Sorrento's southern, coastal air with the flavours of fresh Italian cooking from the restaurants as I walked along Via Santa Maria delle Grazie. Colours, people, smiles, waiters carrying drinks ... all continued to carry me. The freedom and joy I felt was the most pure joy I've ever experienced.

This.
This moment.
This is when I experienced my understanding of what life is truly about.

The moment when I began to live my life.

My foot lifted and as it slowly came down to rest on the threshold of the bar, life moved quickly again as I returned to Stone Street.

RECOMMENDATION: Stone Street Tavern www.stonestreettavernnyc.com